I cant take it anymore
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Its probably hard to understand but I have been talking to this guy for about six months now. I am 19 and he is 25. We have been been having sex for about five of those months and i want more but he is real afraid to commit. I truly have invested a lot of time in this relationship and a lot more than he has. One of us usually calls everday but he has not recently and i think he thinks i am trying to force him in a relationship, which to an extent I have. Im so hurt all the time by his not wanting to be in a committed relationship and I dont know what to do. i want to continue my relationship with him and I have let him know on several occassions that i want to be with him but he keeps telling me that he doesnt want a relationship right now and he tells me maybe one day. We continue to have sex and it hurts me to know that this may be all it is even though he says its not. We do go on dates and just hang out but he seems to get annoyed everytime i ask him where are we heading....Im dangerously in love and I need to know what to do. I think I am scaring him away with all of this but i dont know how to make it more serious without looking crazy or desperate, or giving to much of myself and getting even more hurt HELP PLEASE,
Desperately in love
I am sorry you are in this predicament.
It's always difficut when one person is more committed than the other.
Your choices are pretty clear... live with the current situation and continue to try to care for you more... or, dump him and move on.
For advice on how to understand and resolve commitment phobia please go to a search engine such as http://www.google.com and search under the term
"commitment phobia men"
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com