Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for the past 7 months now. We have been fine for the most part, but it seems lately we have been actin differently towards eachother. About two months ago i fessed up the truth i lied about for so long to her and she says that is the reason why she's been so distant towards me. i told her i never had sex with another girl without a condom before i took her virginity, and she said when i told her that she was severely hurt and crushed by that. She's the kind of person who really isnt that good at sharing her feelings toward other people because she's afraid of getting hurt. So from then on she's been actin very distant from me, i mean i know i lied about that, but this has been going on for two long now. She never really calls me back when she says she will, she says i slip her mind, and i look at it like how can you say you love me and i slip you mind. It took me forever just to get her to open herself to me, and for her to tell me she loves me. Ive been tryin to let little things go but i jut cant tke this anymore, she pays me barely any attention anymore, and its hurting me on the inside everyday. Its like we were so perfect not too long ago, and now things have gotten so messed up. I love here and i will do literally anything for her, but im just tired of feeling so hurt and negleted from her. Lately she's been giving alot of her attention to her freinds and other things, and its like im the last thing she attends to in the day. Were aruguin over the dumbest things, and im starting to believe that she really taking me for granted, and not appreciating me like she used to. I so confused i thought the girl was to be feeling like this, and not the guy, i never heard of the guy feeling so neglected from his girl. If anybody could give me some advice i would greatly appreciate it, i just dont know what to do any more.
When you confessed to you girlfriend it turned something off in her.
You need to have a long, caring, trusting, and honest conversation about what happened and why she is acting cold toward you. And, find out whether she thinks that things can change for the better.
She will appreciate your openness and may be willing to open up a little herself. It won't be easy but you've got to try.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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