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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend of one month is trying to make me spend all of my time with him. I'm only 15 and he's nearly 16, and we're not that serious. He hasn't kissed me or anything. But we hang out after school everyday, after I get back from track. track ends at about 3:45 and we hang out til 4:30. He occasionally asks me to skip track to be with him, and he always begs me to stay until 5 or 6. I always refuse, but he's persistant. Before band there is a 15 minute period where everyone hangs out in the hall way, and my bf just wants me to sit in the corner with him when all of my friends are up having fun. There's also a pepband that plays at basketball games that we're in together, and during half time he wants to pull me off into a corner and sit there, when all my friends are once again having fun. And when he pulls me away from the action, we don't even talk or anything, we just sit there and it gets kind of boring. And if I try to get up and go hang out, he holds on to my hand and says, "No, don't go. You get to see them all the time." Also, everytime we're together, he's all over me, like his arm'll be around me and he uses his hand to force my head on his shoulder, or he rests his head on my shoulder, and he always sits really really uncomfortably close to me. He makes it difficult for me to talk to anyone when he's there. I still like him, but I want him to let me have a life outside of him. How can I get him to back off of me a bit and let me spend some time with my friends and him at the same time?
Tell him straight out that you need more time with your friends.
Say that you like to be with him a lot but not all the time. Suggest that you have certain days when you are on your own. If he is unwilling, tell him you have to do it and just do it.
It will be good for him to circulate with other people than you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com