Back and Forth.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I really dont know wat to do. I first saw her when i was 13 years old and right there i knew i wanted to be with her. We then went out but broke up a couple months later and she went out with another guy. It hurt but i waited the patient 9 months and i finally got her back. But the 2nd time we went out, it was different. I shared everything with her, i shared every single detail of my life with her and she did the same. We were inseperable. I loved her so much. But after 6 months my love for her started flickering. My feelings would keep going on and off and i couldnt face myself to talk to her. So we finally broke up and it was horrible. She was a mess and i couldnt stop her from being sad. So we stopped talkin but she emailed me constantly saying how she would wait forever and how she loves me so much. At the time i felt uncomfortable reading them. We broke up in August and this went on until december. So one day, everything changed. She would isolate me and try to pull herself away from me. And now she started to party (which is not her personality) and now shes flirting with another boy which is making me jealous. I keep telling myself i should be happy but then it keeps hitting me that i lost my virginity to this girl and i shouldnt let her get away from me. Now we're not friends, and i keep missing her. Its like all the things i did to her like ignoring phone calls, ignoring emails, telling the person the same answer over and over "I dont Know", always getting frusterated when she brought of the past, all this is happening to me now. And she says we cant be together anymore because it hurt her to much. I dont know wat to do. The pain is just overwhelming and i cant get her out of my head. Blah.
The best shot you have of getting her back is to become her friend again.
Forget telling her you are desperate for her because it probably makes her think "yeah, well you deserve it."
Start off slowly. See if she will let you call her once a week for 15 minutes just to see how she is doing and to let her know that you still. Be cheerful and don't talk about your old relationship.
After doing this awhile, and you are friends again, she may grow attracted to you again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com