Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi I am married to a man from another country, for 6 years. We started having problems from the beginning, now I want to discontinue, he does not cooperate with me to make things legal, I am staying in his country, things are also financially difficult. He is aggressive and arrogant, blames me all the time for everything but does nothing to bring any stability in life. Now he also blames me for taking the decision to go apart. This is psychologically too much stress for me. I am very depressed, do not know how to go through the situation, whether I will find a good partner again ! I have a very strong feeling of taking revenge by making him feel extremely bad through fighting and abusing, as I feel cheated and deprived. Can you tell me how to overcome these negative feelings and make the divorce peaceful. Also please advise how I can stop my expectation that he will cooperate in divorce.
If you haven't already done so, see a divorce lawyer.
Get references from friends if possible. Speaking of friends, you should share your feelings with one or two special friends so that you can build up confidence in you and what you are doing.
The lawyer will also reduce your anxiety and lead you through all the legal steps. Your husband will have no choice but to cooperate at that point.
From your letter, I can tell you are an intelligent woman and therefor you should have no trouble finding a new partner.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com