Breaking up when you didn't even go out
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I know a girl at school who likes me but I know nothing about her. She asked me out once, but I said that we should be friends and get to know each other first (because I didn't know ANYTHING about her). She said okay and I thought that was the end of it. Apparently her views on 'getting to know each other' is passing me a note that said some somewhat random things about her about a week after I turned her down. I disregarded the note and went on with my life. Now she sent me ANOTHER note asking once again if I would go out with her and it says to 'circle an answer and return it' (about three weeks after I first turned her down). It also says if I put 'no' she won't bother me anymore. I don't even know her, but I don't want to be mean or anything (especially since she's my friend's sister). If I say 'no' it will be awkward b/c I see her almost daily for class. Basically, I don't want to go out with her b/c I don't know her (and I like this other girl), but I don't want to hurt her feelings. But if I say that we should just 'be friends' again, she might think that it means sending me another note with random facts about her (and honestly, all this note-passing is getting kind of irritating). How should I approach this?
A good way to answer her is to tell her that you are interested in another girl. That way she won't feel so rejected since you have given a true answer.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com