my ex-girlfriend of 4 years

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
The reason why im posting this messege is becuase no-on eelse really has a clear answer for me.

My ex-girlfriend and i dated for 4 years. We were really happy , but in the past year or so we had alot of silly arguments mostly becuase of me, maybe becuase we are two different people and we think differntly, but who doesnt.

Anyways about 3 months ago she broke up with me becuase of another argument and she told me that she doesnt think we should go out. We had broken up before but it only lasted a week or two and we got back togehter. But this time is different since its been more than two months that weven been apart.
At the begining when we broke up she was actually upset, but she didnt want me to call her or contact her, but i did becuase i love this girl with all my heart . But after a couple of more calls she really got mad and told me not to call her again and that shes been going to the doctor and everything, so i stopped contacting her completely. and its been a month since last time i talked to her or saw her.but she told me that she still loves and cares for me and i know she does for a fact, but she say she cant be wqith me becuase shes not in love with me.On the other hand i dont understand whtas going on , how could someone love and care for a person and yet not pick up the phone once int he past 3 monhts to see how the other one is doing. She alawyas used to tell me that we will never break up this is even like a week or two before we did break up. She had also told all her family and church and friends that we were going to get married , and all of a sudden boom its gone ....

So to cut it short, our break up caught me and alot of mine and her friends by suprise. I miss her alot and everyday i think aobut her and what we shared in the last four years. I dont know if i should move on like my friends are telling me to or see what happens. I am really confused as to what she could be thinking. I want to respect her space or whateve this is but on the other hand i have a feeling inside that its not over between me and her, becuase when i think about what we have had together it almost makes it impossible to let go..... Advice
My advice is to write her a letter and tell her that you still are in love with her but that you recognize her needs. But if she ever wants you back to contact you.

Since she is going to a doctor and it's been so long since she contacted you, this breakup is very serious to her and my guess is that she will try very hard to stay with her decision.

While you are waiting for her you should start looking around at other girls.

Good luck! George

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