Alittle bit of jealousy over nothing ?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I dont even know how to or where to start it cus it might b kinda stupid. I been with my b/f for 3 years and hes never cheated on me. I have once, and he forgave me for that. The thing is, he never even looks at other women, but if out of the blue one day I see him looking at another women, it kills me inside. I know thats normal jealousy. But my concern is, that to tell u honestly, when I am with him, I look over at guys alot, and flirt, etc, while he is standing right next to me. I dont do it to hurt him, but its just what I am like. So if I am like that, then its really selfish of me to be getting mad over him looking at a women isnt it? I hate the way I am when I go out, he trys his best not to throw fits, and most the time, he doesnt, but I feel like maybe I am that way because there used to be a time when I would throw constant fits at him looking, and now basically, I have realized that when I see an attractive guy looking at me, I enjoy giving it back also, cus it pleases me to see my b/f get jealous. I dont want to be this way, but I also dont want to b raging with pain inside when I see him just glance over once. Whats the deal with me? If theres anything you can say to thelp me out, Id appreciate it. Thanks.
You like your boyfriend to be jealous of you but you don't like suffering the same treatment.
You need to rethink what you are doing and where it will lead... and, it's not going to lead to anything good.
Why not cut out the flirting and looking for a while and see what happens. You might discover you are willing to trade that if he won't look at women. Suggest it to him as a deal.
Keeping things the way they are now is going to be painful for both of you.
Good luck! George
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