Teaching Him to Kiss
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Ok here goes! well ive been dating this guy for about two weeks. At the weekend we had our first kiss and i really liked it. Everytime i go to kiss him now he won't kiss me properly. How can i make him kiss me again like he did before?
Well first, people are really nervous when they are first dating. So there are all sorts of reasons why kisses may be good sometimes and not so good other times. Also, every single human kisses differently. So two people often kiss not-quite-in-sync at the beginning and have to encourage each other to kiss more the way they like it. It's part of the fun of dating, all of that experimentation.
So there isn't a "proper" kiss :) There's just a kiss style you enjoy, and one he enjoys. Since dating is about pleasing each other, and is about communication, it seems you need to do some of both. You're supposed to tell him what you like, not make him guess :) So tell him!
The next time you snuggle up together, say to him in a soft voice, "Remember when we first kissed, and you XXXXXX?" (describe what exactly you felt was special about that kiss) "I *really* enjoyed that. Let's try that again."
Believe me, NO guy is going to refuse a line like that! You've told him that you REALLY enjoyed what he did and that you want more! So now he'll try to do it again. If he doesn't get it quite right, encourage him! Murmur "No no, more like this ..."
All romantic situations involve BOTH partners actively encouraging each other with what they enjoy. You need to get this communication thing working now with the kissing, because it's extremely important in the whole relationship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com