Emotional Roller Coaster
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Person
I submitted for advice on two occasions in December regarding meetin up with my ex while I was in his town for business. George gave me some good advice which I followed. Agian he is still with his longtime girlfriend and I am still in my unhappy marriage. He did end up meeting me for dinner and drinks. He said the reason he has beedn avoiding me is that he cares about me a lot but made a decision to try and make things work with his girlfriend and not lie to her anymore. We spent time catching up and had a great day together. I really knew that he does and always has cared about me. The next day he came and got me again for dinner. Great dinner and conversation, he said that he has missed all of this so much. When we got back to the hotel, he freaked out and said he couldn't do this. he was diverting from his decision. He said he had to leave, he made me go into the hotel before he left. Why was that I don't know. It was so hard we both care about each other so much but can't do this to the others in our life but we can't stay away from each other. This time I was fed up. I went into the hotel and checked out that night, greiving the end of our relationship...again. Just today he called me at work. I was shocked. He wanted to wish me a Happy Valentines day and to apologize for his aactions when I was in town. He said he was sorry for putting me on an emotional roller coaster. He cares for me a great deal, but can't keep lying to his girlfriend. I told him I am not planning on calling him anymore that all of this is up to him now. At the end of the talk he said we would be talking soon. It is true, I feel like I am on this roller coaster with him and everytime i think it is it and over, he pops back up. He even said you know I say we are done, but give me a little bit and I come back. What do I do from here? I love him but I can't keep feeling these ups and downs? We have this emense connection between us
You have done a lot to make this relationship as stable as can be.
But he keeps destabilizing it and making a roller coaster out of it.
I think you know what you must do and are too connected to do it. Take some more steps back to get a broader view of this and do what needs to be done.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com