I kind of want to break up this friendship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
So many problems with just one friend...
Well here we go.I was apparently making fun of her all day on Friday, and when she told me this, I said I was sorry and that I didn't notice, and gave her a big hug.Then she sends me this picture that she photoshopped (via msn) and it was a picture of her that she photoshopped a bit, changing the nose.It wasn't clear that she photoshopped it, and so I said that it hardly looked like she photoshopped it at all,and that it looked just like it was at first.
So, she takes this all serious and blocks me over it.
Well, I kind of thought she blocked me, so I sent her an email saying that I didn't know she took those things seriously, and how I didn't mean to insult her.She replies saying that I make a hobby out of making fun of her.
I got kind of pissed at that point, because she ALWAYS insults me, as I think I said in a previous email, and just the day before she made fun of how I looked ( well, I'm not neccesarily certain on this one, but when she saw a picture of me on some site she said "HAHAHA, WHAT A SWEET PICTURE" and I KNOW that it was a horrible picture and that it was sarcasm).
She's ignoring my emails now.I don't know...we always argue.ALWAYS. I don't get it at all.I'm never like this with any other girl than her, and she's never like this with any other guy but me.But I think I love her too, so it puts me in an awkward situation.
...I think she'd be better off without me..I don't like always pissing her off, and I doubt she does either.
So I'm in a bit of a pickle.I kind of want to break up this friendship for the sake of her feelings...but I love her too.I tried it before, but I never actually said that I wanted to break up the friendship, so it didn't work.
Would this be a good decision?I'd rather her feelings before mine ANYDAY, but I know in doing this that I'll probably be miserable as hell.She's probably my only good girl friend.She's really pretty too,and fun to hang around with, so all of my friends are always trying to get her attention and talk to her, so I'll be a bit of a loner in class.
How would I go about asking her if she still wants to be friends or if she'd rather not be friends?
A lot of this was just me ranting, I'm sorry about that.DON'T post this on your website please, and thank you!
Why not have a talk with her.
Tell her you want to discuss your relationship and how much you two are hurting each other with sarcasm, etc. Choose a time when you can talk freely, honestly, with care, and trustingly.
If you both can do this and agree that change is needed then good.
If she won't talk or if she continues to be disrespectful then it's time to let her go and find someone that you can be happy with.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com