i made a huge mistake back in august
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok,im 19 and shes 20. i had been with her for 3 1/2 years and got engaged before i made a huge mistake back in august by sleeping with another girl, my girlfriend and i were going through a rough patch, she went to see family for a week and i took the easy way out, the other girl gave me what i wasnt getting from my girlfriend at the time. I really really regretted what i had done and my girlfriend said she was going to try to continue to love me even after what had happened. 5 months down the line after a lot of days arguing and crying from both sides, she tells me she doesnt want to be with me anymore and she cant get over what happened. 2 days after that, she tells me she had feelings for one of my friends at work for a few months and then they started dating. I feel rotten for doing what i did and we'd still be together now if i hadnt of done it regardless of what she felt for my friend, she loved me. Now we're apart though, they're together. We have stayed good friends for now but it hurts so much to know she's happy with this other guy, and not with me. i keep giving her the sob story of, "i'll always be here if she wants me back" and "i love her so much". I know i've brought all these feelings about me on myself because of what i did and i cant blame her or my friend for what they feel for each other but i really want her back, do i just leave it because she seems to have moved on or keep trying, she admits that we would still be together and she would never have thought about my friend if we were still together.
Since you want her back, a good thing to do would be to remain her friend and hope that she comes back to you.
Begging and pleading isn't going to do the trick. At most, tell her once every two weeks that you miss her and still care for her. But don't press it and stay cheerful.
Your day may come! George
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