I hope I was not a fling
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I emailed a month ago,about my ex breaking up with me and never giving me any reason,except something is not right,but not sure what it is and need space,and I was the best ever...one thing that is strange is she would always ask why I thought she was so pretty and asking why I wanted to be with her,atleast a few times a month...She was very independent and was not with anyone for four years..Then I came along and she went through the roof and after 2 weeks was telling me she loved me and wanted it all....I know it was going fast but why rock the boat,I was into her too.I did everything right..Then she dumped me all of the sudden..It has been almost 3 months,we actually drove by each other so I decided to call and say hi..It was not a bad break,except maybe no contact for a little time so she could think, so I figured why not call...she answered and said what do you want??I said nothing just wanted to say hi,kept it short and talked for a couple of minutes,she was not mad for me calling,but it felt strange.I was not sure if I should try to talk with her again???It has been 3 weeks since...As far as I know she is not seeing anyone,probably because she has a 9 year old,and was very protective of bringing anyone around...I just started seeing someone and have really realized how much we clicked together and how much I missed her...I guess I always new how much I liked her,but after being with someone else I have realized it even more....I really do not know what to do, I want her back,but I am not sure how to do it or how receptive she will be...We were so good together and she knows it,and there was plenty of communication,but now there is this grey area,and do not understand any of this...With no answers it has been difficult in how to handle it...But through experience,I have found to let things go for awhile,and when we do talk to sound happy and be my old self...I hope I was not a fling,and she did not play me,and fake her emotions to boost her ego...I really want her back even if it means it might not work out but atleast I will know and I will feel better in the long run.....I really need your advice.......
You seem to be doing all the right things.
You have given her the space she needs and called her for a chat.
Call her again, ask how she's doing, tell her you still care for her, be cheerful, don't talk about your relationship and keep it to 15 min max.
Do this every two weeks or until she tells you to stop... or encourages you to call more.
Hope this works for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com