If she rejects me again I would be extremely upset
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have looked through your site and I cant really see anything that is particularly relevant to me and this is why I am posting a question.
I split up with my ex about a year ago. We had been together for about a year, were in love and were very close. I even lived with her and her parents for 3 months. About 2 months after I moved out of her house, I ended the relationship, it was only over a petty argument but for some reason I would not apologise to her and we didnt speak for a while.
About a month later I realised what a huge mistake I had made and tried to get back with her however she said she did not want to come back to me and had another boyfriend. After this I had minimal contact with her for a few months but never stopped thinking about her. About 4 months later we started talking again over the internet and occasionaly by phone, I found out that her relationship with this other lad had not lasted and we began to get on a lot better. A month or so after this she came down with her step dad (who is a good mate of mine) to see me. When I saw her I knew that she was still the one but it was a little bit awkward talking to her.
Since then I have been speaking to her a lot more but have not seen her. I sent her a letter saying that she is still the only one for me and there would never be anyone like her and she replied by saying exactly the same thing. Wenever we speak nowadays we end up talking about when we were going out and she says a lot of nice things to me. She has said she will meet up with me again but I just dont know whether she wants to get back together with me or just wants to be good friends. I am very worried about saying anything because if she rejects me again I would be extremely upset and pretty much heartbroken. I love her and I think about her all the time, there is nothing id want more than to get back with her and I know she has never loved anyone more than she loved me but is it all water under the bridge now?
Any advice you could give me would be much appreciated!! Thank you!!
It appears that things are going very well for you.
The big thing working against you is the long distance relationship you have. How do you plan on maintaining close contact with her? Is there a plan for you or her to move closer?
Guess you have to play the cards that were dealt to you. So maintain your phone and other contacts. You might want to test the waters with her by telling her how you feel about her and see how she responds. Otherwise she may be attracted to some local guy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com